“There is a fine line between madness and genius.”
Sometimes you have to learn to say no. Especially if it is in your nature to be a giver. Sometimes we can give too much. If you feel like you’re getting taken advantage of for instance you have to say no. No is a perfectly acceptable answer and it does not require further explanation. No is a full sentence. No thank you works too. If friends want you to stay out later but you are ready to go home, say no. If you don’t have the money to do something and someone is pressuring you, like an out of town trip, say no. Learning to say no has been difficult for me. Saying no can also be metaphorical. Is there someone or something in your life that has caused you pain and turmoil for years. A toxic relationship? Whether family or lover, you have to learn to say no. This can be a big step on the road to mental wellness.
Now while this post is about letting go of those things that cause you more pain, sadness, frustration, etc. It is also about saying yes. I know what your’re thinking. What the hell am I going on about? I just told you to learn to say no and now I’m saying learn to say yes? With depression and anxiety we tend to isolate. From friends, family, social situations. And while sometimes you need that time of isolation to get back to feeling better, it is not always healthy to isolate. If your friends are wanting to go out to a new place for instance and your anxiety is screaming NO at you, try saying yes. Work through your fears. You can always leave but chances are once you get there you won’t want to.
Am I good blogger for instance? My brain is telling me no. I’m not educated enough. I don’t have enough relatable experience to be a blogger. No one really wants to read what I have to say. I don’t have a degree. But all this doesn’t matter. I am blogging for myself and my own journey, not just to help others. So if this blog never goes anywhere, at least I was brave enough to do something out of my comfort zone. We can be brave everyday, in little ways. Bravery isn’t just jumping out of a plane. It is facing small fears. Like going to that new bar or restaurant, saying hi to that pretty girl, or starting a blog. So start learning to say no, but don’t forget to say yes sometimes too.